I have learnt that one of the biggest keys to my own happiness is to let go of expectations. Expecting people to do or say certain things; expecting the plan I had in my head to be the way that things happen in life and also wanting to control the timing of things happening. I am not saying to be passive in life - not at all. I keep connected with my network and friends and I do work on the vision of my best life possible. But I do believe that we also have to be ok with things not happening as we have expected. Rejections can happen, people can say very different things to the story we would like to hear but this is always a way for us to learn.
I want to share some of the ways I am realising that the right things do happen at the right time.
This week is my birthday so yesterday I had planned to go to the spa with 4 of my girlfriends. I had this picture in my head of the 5 of us having fun and being together. Yesterday morning I had cancellations from two of them as they were both ill. Yes, I was disappointed as I really had been looking forward to seeing those two friends but I then took a step back. Instead of the day being "not as I had planned", I ended up having more time with my other two friends, who were there, and had much deeper and longer conversations. I was able to really catch up with these two and came away having had a wonderful time.
I have been looking for a new way to volunteer which also connected me with people. I had spent three years volunteering at a jazz club in Copenhagen and this was a big part of my life. I was able to contribute to help running a non profit organisation and create connections with people. Yesterday, I was approached by the leader of the buddhist centre I sometimes go to, and asked if I wanted to be a co-host at the centre. I had no idea this was an option and it felt so right so I have said yes and will start doing this later this month. If I had been asked 6 months ago, it would have been the wrong time in my life. My lesson here has been that I have been living with a gap but really until now I wasn't ready.
I remember learning to float when I was having swimming lessons. If you struggled, there was no way you could lie back and float. But if I stopped struggling and trusted the water, I was able to lie back and be supported and float. I am now seeing that life is like this.
On a journey to live the best sparkling life possible. Brit living in Denmark, mum to two amazing little people, Navy girlfriend, jazz lover, exploring yoga, buddhism and living healthy.