At times, the Navy guy and I have communication challenges and this happens when we are apart. We are pretty amazing when together in person but this has been an area that has turned into a pain point when apart. We waste time going around in circles, we get frustrated, we say things we don't mean or maybe would not say if we were face to face. I know I have not been a perfect role model in positive communication some days.
So why have we had this challenge?
Firstly, we have two different native languages with his being Danish and mine being English. We speak English together and his English is pretty good but there are times when we miscommunicate and therefore also misunderstand each other. I found out recently that he thought that if he said something was "quite good" it meant it was a lot better than good - whereas it means it is less than good. So for the first three years of our relationship, he had used the word quite a lot and I always found this puzzling as to why he wasn't more excited or liked something more!
Secondly, we are apart a lot due to work commitments and being parents to three children between us. We rely a lot on using chat or sms to communicate when apart. We often have days where our communicate goes into a negative spiral which makes neither of us happy and the day is spent being miserable.
The positive thing is we both like to solve challenges and so this week we have spent time talking about our communication challenge and coming up with ideas on how to ensure we have more positive days than negative days.
So what did we come up with?
On a journey to live the best sparkling life possible. Brit living in Denmark, mum to two amazing little people, Navy girlfriend, jazz lover, exploring yoga, buddhism and living healthy.