This blog post is about getting a no - a rejection - after a job interview and being very honest that this doesn't feel great.
I personally never feel great when I get that no after an interview. Even if I don't want the role, even if I knew this wasn't the right opportunity, getting that no, the "we don't want you" is one of the feelings I have to say is pretty hard for me. And it happened again today.
This is a topic that is pretty close to my world at the moment. A good friend got a "no" this week after many interviews and being down to the final two. It was hard to see him deal with this as I know how he feels. It isn't nice to be rejected after you have tried your best in the interviews.
In the last 12 months, I have applied for 4 jobs and had a no for all of them. Did any of the roles really suit me? No, not at all. Was I applying for the wrong role? Yes. Did I know listening to my gut instinct that every one of these roles was wrong? Yes. But it doesn't make the getting the no any easier. It is always nice to be the one who turns down something or someone instead of the other way around.
When this happens to me, I take time to reflect. I allow myself to be ok with the no. I look at the bigger picture and what is meant to happen with my life. I practise gratitude. I rebalance.
I wanted to share this quote with you that my navy shared with me. It reflects both his view on life and connects to his passion for boxing.
It is about getting up. A no may feel like a punch but it isn't the end of the boxing match. It may hurt but you can get up again and keep fighting on.
Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place. And I don’t care how tough you are. It will beat you to your knees and keep you permanently there if you let it”
We have a new project in our family - to write a guide on the best places to eat pizza in Copenhagen. We are taking one new place per month and writing a blog post on our feedback.
The first restaurant was Rossopomodoro which is situated at the top of Illum, right in the centre of Copenhagen. There are a mixture of different places to eat plus access to a fantastic room terrace with stunning views of central Copenhagen.
Busy, good atmosphere, cool vibe, nice architecture/design and roof terrace with stunning views of central Copenhagen.
Quite loud music. Tables close together so not the place for an intimate date.
Very fast, our reservation was ready and clean tables
Super friendly with a charming waiter
Drinks came very fast
Pizza took 10 mins to arrive on a busy Sat
Taste: overall score 4,83
Max - 5
Lucy - 4.7
Sophie - 4.8 (little salty)
Soft dough, sweet tomato sauce, little bit salty dough which was a good combination with the sweet tomato sauce, good amount of mozzarella, fresh basil and overall great taste.
Big pizza, very filling
Also have other food except pizzas on the menu. Looked delicious which we saw what other people were eating at nearby tables.
Total bill including tip was Kr 600 ($85 USD) for 3 people - 3 pizzas and 2 drinks each.
A Margherita pizza cost Kr 120 each.
Dance like nobody's watching - because they're not
Dance...music...moving our bodies. When was the last time you put on some music and danced for the whole track? Just let go and dance?
A few things over the last few months have reminded me how much I LOVE and NEED to dance.
So what do I do now that is different? I dance at home. Yes, that's right. I put on my favourite song and I dance around my apartment. It feels great. Sometimes the children are at home and they join in, a lot of the time I do this when I am home alone.
What songs make me want to dance at the moment?
Try it...find a song. I know my navy guy loves techno/trance songs to dance to. What gets you grooving will be unique to you so don't over think this or compare yourself to anyone else. Just find 5 minutes today and dance.
A whole year has passed since you gave up eating foods with processed sugar in them. For you, chocolate (and eating sugar) never gave you happiness. In fact quite the opposite. It impacted your mental health, caused inflammation and for someone who puts on weight very easily, contributed to those extra kilos.
What a journey it has been. It started with the support and help of the Jumpstart group you took part in in November 2016. Those two weeks changed your life. Learning to eat differently, experimenting with new foods and the realisation again that you are a sugar addict. Your addiction meant that moderation was never an option. One chocolate bar led to another. And oh you tried with eating raw chocolate instead...it was still feeding your addiction and habit.
But here we are now in November 2017. A time to celebrate. You took on a big challenge and succeeded. You used the support available to you and embraced a new way of living.
You have more energy than before and are sleeping well every night. Your skin is glowing and those extra kilos you wanted to lose - well, they just fell off.
And most important of all , you are sparkling. The dark depression has lifted and whilst you still have a bad day once in a while, your outlook on life has shifted.
This is your future self saying keep going. It is worth it. You have the tools and the people in place on team Sophie to cheer you on. Admitting to an addiction is not a weakness. It is a strength.
Over the last week, I have realised that it is very ok to ask for help. The "what to you need" board at camp, watching people pitch business ideas and then this message today on Facebook.
This blog post is to ask for help in the form on one introduction from everyone that reads this post - an introduction that can help me spread the word about the work I do and the business I am building.
Who could you introduce me to?
I see this as one of my gifts to the world and I need your help in spreading the word. So one introduction is all I am asking from you. Imagine if we all did one thing to help another person today. My hope is that out of my 1005 LinkedIn connections and of the 13,000 people that have read this blog in the last 12 months and my 448 Facebook friends, I can be introduced to clients where I can really make a difference.
My email is firstname.lastname@example.org
My goal is to turn webinars from being dull and boring to being interesting and engaging.To provide webinar services so my clients can focus on their core business and know that they can turn up and I am there to support them. To encourage people to be authentic in their story telling and message delivery as this is when trust is built, sales are made and businesses can grow.
To learn more about my webinar consulting business Create the Spark Marketing click here
This was a summer of trying new things for me. I went on my first holiday on my own; took the children to the UK for the summer adventure instead of a hot sunny location (loved Snowdonia, didn't love the rain!); and I have been to two summer camps to find more in person connections. I work from home, have set up my own business this year and more than ever, keeping connected to people is key on this journey.
So...the Happy Start Up School summer camp - 150 people coming together with the goal of sharing ideas, listening to stories, being inspired, allowing yourself to be vulnerable, celebrating life, asking for help and giving support and having fun.
Key stand out points for me were:
This really was camping. Waking up to a gorgeous view of English countryside on a working farm. Sharing a tent with two wonderful women I had never met before but who became friends in such a short time. Putting on make up with the tiniest mirror in a tent - these are the moments that bond you!
Helping each other - The "What do you need" board
This was one of the ideas at the camp that I loved. A way to share what you need with the fellow campers (plus a name with a photo which helped at times). It was a conversation starter, it enabled connections to develop and best of all, a way to offer help to someone else.
I found my tribe. I also made new friends. I have new business ideas. I feel a confidence that everything will work out even if I don't know all the answers now because I am now going to follow my dreams and passions and I am supported by a whole bunch of crazy people along the way.
I love Santorini and have now been 4 times to this wonderful island. I keep being asked about where I stay and also about my yoga teacher so this blog post is my guide to Santorini.
Where to stay?
My choice of hotel is Agia Irini - it is an 11 room hotel in between Oia and Fira (on the quiet side of the island). It takes 10 mins to drive to both towns and you are away from noise and crowds. You do need to hire a car as nothing is within walking distance or the hotel can help with transport.
The views are stunning, the service is wonderful and it is run by a very friendly Greek family. Vaggelis (together with his parents) make your stay a real pleasure.
Plus this is a very budget friendly hotel - I paid around $60USD per night in July.
It has a score of 9/10 on booking.com
For my last three trips, I have also had private yoga sessions every day. I found Veronika online and wow, what an amazing yoga teacher. I really deepened my yoga practise with her and she explains positions very well and is also very intuitive. I cannot recommend her highly enough. She came to my hotel for our yoga classes and I felt like I had my own yoga retreat. She does also run classes every week plus retreats.
For more information, here is her website
My top list of things to do on Santorini
A list of great places to eat
I wanted to share with you my recent experience on writing blog posts and also facts from my recent LinkedIn post.
My recent LinkedIn post got the most visibility any of my posts have had – I have had 1937 views, 103 likes, 12 comments and 9 shares - and I can see the reasons why:
My experience of writing blog posts here is again, the more authentic the post, the more views and comments. I also tell stories and make it so people can connect to the story. I have had over 6500 people read my blog in the last 12 months and I can see patterns in the metrics that follow the same conclusion I shared above.
The timing of any message is key. I hit a need in the “market”. It also has to be relevant to people’s pain points. People follow people and not brands, so tell YOUR story. And give something away – people love to feel they are getting something whether this is tips or exclusive content.
Yesterday I arrived home from my first summer camp experience in the US. I wanted to share my story and experiences and in a separate blog post I will get more into the "aha" moments I had from a business perspective, tools I want to share and what really inspired me. This is about how I experienced camp.
Background and also to answer the question on why I went to Camp GLP (Good Life Project) - since 2011, I have been listening to Jonathan Fields interview people as part of his vision to create a "Good Life Project" and every interview has inspired and challenged me. So when I first heard about Camp GLP in 2014, I said to myself, I want to go there one day. A wonderful friend went last year and when she came back from camp, I signed up to go with her this summer.
The Adventure: I left home last week feeling so depleted. My dog had been ill and I had had such little sleep. Plus I was full of fear - of trying something new, going to a new place etc. And so off I went to New York, feeling pretty apprehensive. There was a part of me that was also excited, after all I would get to see one of my real life heroes in person.
What were the big experiences for me?
It was also hard - I am not going to write this blog post without the whole story of my weekend.
An experience like this changes you. I have new friends, new ways of looking at life, new ideas to implement in my business and belief that something can be scary and fill you with fear but will be ok...even if it feels very different to how you thought it would be.
I saw people dressed up as Unicorns, people dancing like no one was watching, people sharing their stories, standing up on stage at the Talent show and giving it their all....I saw love in so many shapes and forms this weekend. All part of a Good Life.
Funny how life works...or at least funny how my life seems to work. Today I am leaving for New York and this trip represents so much more than a holiday. I am going to Camp GLP (Good Life Project) and I have wanted to go to this camp since listening to a podcast over two years ago when they first launched this camp. It became my dream to go - I was sold on the vision of spending 3 and a half days with people from around the world.
And the Universe made a way for it to happen - a good financial option and even one of my wonderful soul sisters to go with. I really invested in this trip and as I said, today is the day I fly to NY.
But why have I had the craziest toughest week in a long long time? Firstly, since Friday my dog Maggie has been ill. I have two children and have experienced illness - but a dog throwing up every two hours and having diarrhoea for several days..that has been tough. I have been woken up to go outside with her (every two hours for several nights) plus trying to work with her ill and also on no sleep is pretty impossible.
Secondly, my body of course reacted from lack of sleep and I have a very painful mouth ulcer. I saw my dentist yesterday and only time can heal it (together with some antiseptic cream I am supposed to put on twice a day but gag when I put the syringe in my mouth).
I am hormonal and now my period has started - just perfect timing for a few days by a lake and swimming. I also have an upset stomach and nausea on top.
So overall, nothing feels great. I certainly don't feel excited about getting on a plane this evening.
It did get me thinking about WHY - why when I wanted this trip so badly, why when I had invested a lot of money into it, do I have the craziest week ever before I go?
I believe it is fear. Inside this trip scares the hell out of me. An introvert going to stay in a cabin with 9 other women for 3 nights. How will I cope with my jet lag and need for space? And at a higher level, I need to deal with the fact that I don't see myself as "creative soul, entrepreneur and change maker" and that this is maybe were the resistance is coming from. I feel like I am going to a party where all the others are legitimately there and I have sneaked in.
My message here is that fear can do crazy things. I am aware of this feeling and am going to walk head first into the next few days and do something that scares me - and makes me feel very alive. We are often thrown challenges and given obstacles to climb over to get to where we really want to be.
Time to finish off some work, pack and then head off to New York (cue...singing...which ever New York song you prefer and makes your heart sing)
On a journey to live the best sparkling life possible. Brit living in Denmark, mum to two amazing little people, Navy girlfriend, jazz lover, exploring yoga, buddhism and living healthy.