For those of you who have read my blog for a while or even my short bio of myself, you will know I am a navy girlfriend. My boyfriend (we have been together since November 2011) is an officer in the Danish Navy.
What does this mean on a practical level? We live with something bigger than just a job in our lives. World affairs impact our lives and time together. A couple months after we met, he left for three months of pirate hunting of the coast of Somalia which meant getting to know each other in the formative early days was done via email and a once a week 15 minute phone call from a satellite ship.
He has been on so many exercises and also in-depth training programmes with his ship and also for a couple of years was based on a navy base 5 hours drive away from Copenhagen. To have any time together it involved a lot of craziness - driving with him and then flying back to Copenhagen...you name it, we have done it to be together. Phone calls in the middle of the night as that was the only time the phone on the ship was available - both of us giving up sleep just to talk to each other.
This all involves keeping my heart wide open. I can get angry and resentful but this is also met by a feeling of selfishness inside of me. His work takes dedication, courage, commitment and I know he also misses home when away. He can be on a grey ship in the middle of the sea with very few home comforts and not much sleep....he isn't having a holiday on a cruise!
After time apart this last few weeks as we had separate holidays with our children, I was so excited in having time together next week...but alas...it turns out he has to leave for another mission and all of our plans again changed.
Believe me, I am learning lessons. Plans change constantly. Living with expectations only sets you up for sadness. Being angry doesn't change the situation. I can choose to be loving or mad. I need to remember the good memories in the dark moments and also the fact that this is a guy who will drive across the country just for a few hours with me to make me smile.
I am choosing love.
On a journey to live the best sparkling life possible. Brit living in Denmark, mum to two amazing little people, Navy girlfriend, jazz lover, exploring yoga, buddhism and living healthy.