In the spring, I had a 1:1 workshop around my relationship with money. The goal was to uncover my emotional connection with money, my fears around money and the stories I told myself.
We worked on saying different statements out loud and getting comfortable with these. Not an easy task but it taught me that all my views and thoughts around money are just stories and these can be changed.
For projections about things we desire and feel money provides:
I am _____________ with or without the money.
For projections about fear:
I am _____________ and it's ok / and I love it.
I did this with Max St John and in the weeks and months after the workshop, I felt a shift in how I saw money in my life. I was more aware of my habits and emotions around money.
One big change I have made recently is to "own" my budget. Really live it. Not just make a spreadsheet with a line item and then go on spending money. So how could I do this? One area I realised I was spending too much money was my food budget. About 6 weeks ago I set myself the challenge of only shopping with a set amount of cash per week.
This has turned into a really fun exercise and the children have also joined in. I shop differently now. I don't just throw items into my shopping basket. I shop for food I need and I meal plan. I feel a pride in myself for keeping to the budget and I always know how much money I have left over.
So for me, shopping with cash works and I have a much healthier bank account and budget!
For those of you who have read my blog the last few months, I have at times said I haven't been happy in different areas of my life. What I don't like and what can really get to me (and make me feel stressed) is a feeling of being stuck. I remember once seeing an inspirational woman say that this feeling is like being down a dead end road but the good thing is that you can always turn the car around and drive on again.
I read a quote last week about asking for help and that to ask for help you had to know what you wanted help with. Just saying to people in your network "I want a new job, please help" isn't going to get you a dream job or maybe even a job at all.
I realised I was falling into this trap. I kept saying I wasn't happy but had I really worked on what did make ME happy? What were my passions? What business ideas could I come up with? What did my dream work life look like?
The last three weeks I have been working on answering these questions whilst I took the really great Passionathon program. This isn't easy work, especially when I was working on the exercises during a busy work day and also life with two children. I found myself getting so excited and passionate and full of ideas and also feeling exhausted and drained.
I wanted to share a couple of the exercises I found to be very valuable:
The Vision Board
A vision board is all about creating a visual of what you ideal dream life would look like and what it would contain. I took a big canvas, a big pile of magazines and got creative. I made took my time moving the pictures around to be in different groups and also made sure all areas of my life were included - health, family, love, career, fun, adventures, and also how I wanted to live. The really amazing and interesting thing is that as soon as I did this, things that I had put on my vision board started coming into my life.
Write a list of 200 things you enjoy doing
Another exercise was to write down a list of 200 things I enjoyed doing. Wow...this was hard. The first 20 were super easy....the next 20 were easy...but getting up to 200 took time and also hard work and really thinking what do I, Sophie, like doing. Not what I am expected to do, but what I enjoy doing.
All I can say, is if you are feeling stuck, try taking the Passionathon course. It has changed my life!
On a journey to live the best sparkling life possible. Brit living in Denmark, mum to two amazing little people, Navy girlfriend, jazz lover, exploring yoga, buddhism and living healthy.