One of the big tests for a relationship is what happens in times of sickness. It is easy to be there for each other when things are easy but what happens when one of you gets ill and has to have medical treatment. The balance in the relationship shifts; this week hasn't been about dates and romance. It has been about him caring for me and me feeling quite helpless at times - I felt like a stranded whale some moments when getting up from my bed was too painful!
In the time we have been together, I have had two operations with a general anaesthetic so I can say first hand that I know how my navy guy steps up when I need him to. My operation this week was not great timing - he had to finish writing and hand in an exam paper for his masters degree plus life in the navy doesn't stop because your girlfriend is having an operation. But he was there for me - the one who took my plaster off because I was too scared to do it, the one who helped wash the iodine off in the shower, the one who has bought me painkillers so I didn't run out, the one who put me to bed every night and the one who was there with me at the hospital.
The other person who is always there for me - despite us not being married anymore - is Steffen. I wasn't well enough to have the children back on Thursday so he kept them an extra day without any fuss. He also always steps up if I am ill and need help and support.
Whilst we don't want to have illness and bad health test us, it is inevitable that it does and I feel so grateful for having the support I have had this last week. We also had moments that made us laugh - being pushed out of hospital in a wheel chair and us imagining this was us escaping from an old people's home together showed me we can keep our humour in tough times.
On a journey to live the best sparkling life possible. Brit living in Denmark, mum to two amazing little people, Navy girlfriend, jazz lover, exploring yoga, buddhism and living healthy.